the contempt directed at Ross seems off-target for Demelza's personality
And that the cliffhanger will be something different (perhaps E's pregnancy.)
Episode 9 was the Slough of Despond; shouldn't Episode 10 show the beginning of a detente?
"It was one night! How long will it take for you to forgive me?"
2. Thaw -- Demelza's anger eases, and Ross's "Warleggan with Elizabeth!" psychosis abates. Conversations about household matters, the mine, and friends can be conducted amicably. Cordial but loveless: intimacy and tenderness are absent, but D and R are functional as cohabitants of Nampara. For different reasons, both of them wish to avoid discussing the VBT directly.
Also, the contempt directed at Ross seems off-target for Demelza's personality. Righteous anger when called for, sorrow, despair, and even some well-timed sarcasm, yes, but not outright contempt
Obviously, we don't know how much time is supposed to have passed since the VBT, but after a while (a few months in the book) her worst feelings are softened, and Demelza and Ross reach what I call the cordial but loveless phase of their post-VBT relationship. She is not at his throat in every single conversation
If someone has nothing but contempt for their partner and it does seem that Demelza is more bitter and contemptuous than anything else, will a sincere apology suffice to regain a forgiving (not forget) loving relationship. And would the wronged party even want too?
Linda Vellucci 1 day ago
He wants to "save the world" and be a hero, but he doesn't put in that kind of effort with his own home. Out in the world, he obtains adulation, at home, he gets contempt because of his own selfish behavior.
This is why she has never told him the truth that he has broken her heart, her faith in him has been severely damaged, and that she believes he no longer wants her.
Ross was pretty good at expressing his emotions and feelings to Demelza in the first season (the whole "you have redeemed me" speech) so it's very hard for me to believe that he is so unequal to the task now.
All those statements from Ross are exactly what Demelza wanted and needed to hear at the time. Yet he doesn't know how to express remorse after betraying her in the worst way? Not plausible in terms of his character.
That he didn't manage it by the end of the episode doesn't mesh with the Ross we've known since the start of the season 1.
By the episode 10, especially with the speed of time in the modern Poldark adaptation, I would expect less bitterness and contempt. Like you said, hurt, anger, sorrow, despair is in keeping with Demelza's fundamental nature, contempt is not.
I don't think it's fair to say that. Demelza is very much entitled to her stance while he continues to make outrageously offensive statements about the affair. I'm thinking that a big chunk of the audience thinks in the same way.I suspect that she will only soften once he takes responsibility and gives her a heartfelt apology.
Lots of Ross in his regimentals.