Sex and Dating : Having a small penis

Newlywed husband (32M) wanted to wait til marriage for sex and just surprised me (27F) with micropenis on the honeymoon.

So, we only dated for six months. We've been engaged for another six and just got married on Saturday. I literally just got back from my honeymoon a couple hours ago. My husband isn't a religious guy, he just says he is "old fashioned like that." We got close to fooling around a couple times but it never went far. I tried, but he always stopped after it went "too far". Anyway, fast forward to now…

Am I the asshole for reading into this and being upset that I waited until my wedding night to find out that he probably isn't as "old fashioned" as he says he is? I'm not going to shame him and honestly I don't even know how I'll broach the topic (and I'm not seeking advice). I honestly just acted like nothing was out of the ordinary and went to town with him, but…I dunno. I kind of feel lied to. Like a halftruth…or something was intentionally withheld from me. This was unexpected, to say the least. And if you read this far, thanks for your time.

There is a difference between "size is important" and "not being able to have penetrative sex" not always but a real possibility. This is one of the few reasons you can get a legal annulment in some states still(inability to consummate, not micro-penis specifically) This could mean IVF to have kids. This is a medical condition diagnosed at birth not an opinion of size.

I have vaginismus, which causes problems with penetration sometimes, and also have problems with PTSD and certain sex positions and acts due to rape. I would never have married and hid those things from my husband until the honeymoon. For both our sakes.

And that’s not even me not being able to have intercourse at all—just that it’s a major thing my husband and I have had to navigate in our sex life. I wouldn’t have dreamed for one second of hiding that from him. This goes beyond a size issue; it’s duplicitous and dishonest. OP’s husband tricked her.

Earlier this week, she was back on Reddit with an update, saying that her husband was no threatening to leave and sue her.

'My husband saw my post and says he wants to leave me and sue me,' she wrote. 'Says he wants an annulment and is considering suing me for defamation of character.

'He says it's only a matter of time before someone leaks his name. He saw the post through an old friend of his who knew he had a micropenis and saw on his FB that he had just gotten married. He doesn't know who else the guy has told to link him to it.

'He is crushed that I posted about him,' she wrote.

Though she didn't address the fact that her husband's friend was only able to identify him because he already knew about his micropenis — thereby quashing any argument that she spilled his secret — she did offer an update about her interactions with her husband.

Sure enough, he admitted that he kept the secret because he feared she'd leave him if she knew.

What is a micropenis?

A micropenis is an abnormally small penis.

The average penis size is 5.21 in. (13.24 cm.) when erect. A micropenis in one that measures less than 3.66 in. (9.3 cm.) when erect.

The condition is very rare, only affecting around 1.5 in 10,000 males, or 0.015 per cent of males born in the United States.

The most common cause is a hormonal issue, though they can also be due to harmful chemicals that the mother is exposed to during pregnancy.

Treatments include hormone therapy (which, when successful, can make a penis grow 1/38 in./3.5 cm.) and surgery.